What is your life about?
Many people have pondered the meaning and purpose of their lives – I bet all of us have at one point or another.
Some say life is for achievements, for sustenance, for fame, and others for great possessions. Take it a step further, some say life is for giving, and for helping others. None of these are wrong and some have noble value and purpose behind them.
Then comes a “but.”
The more I think about the journey, these goals aren’t really what life is about.
They are part of the journey, they are myriad branches in a tree of life.
But the trunk – the main part of life is the journey of self discovery.
Man is truly living his life when he is on a quest to understand oneself.
On the surface, we all think we all understand who we are inside, but nothing could be further from the truth. As east is far from the west is our perception of self and the reality of who we are. If people are like onions in the way we understand each other, then our inner selves are a bit like black hole – the more you know, the more you don’t know. This is compounded by the fact that we the people, carry a ton of data piled away in our subconsciousness.
That is why we need to engage in an act of continuous self discovery to understand who we are in the deepest part of our emotional abyss – the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between. It is a difficult journey but one that I believe is essential if one’s to live life. Those who move through life without really thinking about these things is really missing the point… because who you are inside, whether you understand it or not, will dictate just about everything you do in life.
Living life without understanding your inner self is like compounding medicine with unknown chemicals. Yet, so many of us do exactly that – and that’s why we have so many ailments and unintended side effects in our interactions with one another.
Then the truly happy man is the one who understands himself well and is continuously engaged with his inner self. He lives a reflective lifestyle and gains insights. These revelations may not always be pleasant, but he is comfortable because to understand himself is to take another step towards accepting oneself and becoming whole. The happy man knows his strengths and weaknesses very well and is comfortable talking about them. So he loves himself in a wholesome way and is content with himself. This does not mean he is perfect, but it means that he understands the value he brings. So there is no need to hide or disguise himself in front of others. She presents herself the same way whether she’s with colleagues, friends, lover, family, or even strangers. The same. She is able to not worry about what others think – She can have fun with a group of friends or enjoy herself sitting alone in a cafe. He is a confident person because he is consistent and constant. And since he knows himself, there is no need for him to prove himself by driving a nice car or flaunting achievements. His confidence is not based on possessions, knowledges, or reputation, so instead of external factors adding value to his being, his person adds value to the surroundings. This concept is easily demonstrated by celebrities endorsing brands – The product derives value because of the person.
To fully understand oneself, is the pinnacle of achievement in one’s life.
Of course, it’s not the only one, but from it stems majority of other measures of our achievements in life because without it, their satisfactions are short-lived. Notable people ending their own lives would be an extreme example of this.
To be fair, it’s hard to get to that state. It is because we live in a pretty messed up and distracted world that encourages everything but looking within yourself. But I also know quite a few people who live this way, and one person who did it perfectly many years ago. So how to begin? Well, you can start in baby steps – journaling, meditation, prayer, a hike up the mountain… there are many avenues to help one get started in the journey. When that inner dialog is flowing, our interactions with one another will greatly improve, and our society as a whole will benefit. Of course, for that to happen, we would need to relate to one another, learn from each other and so on (it doesn’t happen in a monolog) but it is the essential foundation on which to build on. Ultimately, understanding the self enables the greatest quest – understanding the meaning of life.
Truly understanding yourself – this is the journey of life.
I hope that we all boldly embark on that journey without a care in the world because that, is how we truly care about the world we live in… one person at a time.
Journey on, my friend.
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